Thursday, March 17, 2011


     First off, happy St. Patty's Day. I'm wearing my Lucky Charms shirt in honor.
     But onto something more serious.
     So, two this have happened in the past few days that have left some questions lingering in my mind. First off, at church on Sunday our relief society lesson was on service. One of the things our teacher said was that everyone has different talents and strengths and we should serve how we are best able. That got me thinking... what are my talents? Writer? Well, maybe, but how does that help with service?
     Then then missionaries came by last night to talk and issue us one of those very-scary challenges. When they asked if I had anyone in mind to bring into our home I said, um no. When they asked for the first person that popped into my head, I did think of someone, but it's someone I hardly know. And I laughed in utter embarrassment and then sheepishly explained that I'm kinda anti-social and therefore... sorry, I've got nothing.
     It got me to thinking... I've always been kinda shy. On the bachelor finale this past Monday, Emily described herself as "private, not shy". Well, I'm both. I'm not always shy, but I definitely don't put myself out there. I say hi to people, but I'm not much of a conversation starter. I've always been this way and I feel like I always will. I've been better at different times of my life (BYU), and I've been worse (like when I first started having kids). But this is who I am.
     So my question is- is this a bad thing? I mean, yes, I wish I was different. I wish I was a lot more outgoing and comfortable with people. And this shyness limits me- I could make more contacts, put myself out there more in the writing world, etc. But this is who I am. Should I change that? Sometimes I think- why bother? But then I think about service or missionary work or even what I would do if I go to a writer's conference and I think, I need to be better. I need to be unafraid of people, or looking stupid, or being rejected. Because I hardly ever serve. Because I have no one I could talk to about the church or invite to something. Because I'm terrified of even doing so. So then I think, I need to change. But will I...


  1. This is a really honest post, Melanie. Thank you for sharing. I've noticed that I've been more shy or more outgoing at different times in my life, too.

    It's so easy to pull inside yourself when you start having kids and life is crazy at home, but I can't help but wonder if that's the time when we need outside support the most. That's one of the reasons I like blogging - I'm able to connect with people who share the same interests and like to talk about the same things. I wish more of them lived close to me.

    You know, if you'd like to do some blogging missionary work, I'm organizing the second annual Mormon Writer Blogfest right now. We're all planning to blog about our favorite conference talks from the upcoming April conference on April 12, then link to everyone else's posts. If you'd be interested in doing something like that, feel free to e-mail me at kvandolzer(at)gmail(dot)com.

  2. First off, I meant to tell you how cute you all looked in your St. Patrick's Day shirts. Too fun! I remember doing that with my kids when they were they are "too cool" to do it.

    You are who you are and you growing and learning from everything that you do and what happens to you is all part of what helps you become you. Shy or private doesn't matter, be who you are and the rest will long as you are always trying to grow and change. Ok, did any of that make sense LOL?!